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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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Hello Gentlemen

What does bring a Dom actually involve.

Can somebody give some pointers/advice

Thanks

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*ordic-knight By *ordic-knight   premium paying member (M)  over a year ago

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Owning a castle in Spain?

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By *de67  (M)  over a year ago

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never been sure of this dom sub thing i think if yourself and like to be in control and have your partner do the things you want then your on your way.

otherwise after that surley its getting into bdsm stuff

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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Ha Ha.

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By *cousedpw   profile verified by photo (M)  over a year ago

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If it's for roleplay it's really just aggressive sex. Mild spanking, face fucking and pounding the guys arse.

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By *endmeoverputitin   profile verified by photo (M)  over a year ago

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i get VERY turned on being dominated i enjoy my bum being roughly treated

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By *incsloaded3   profile verified by photo (M)  over a year ago

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If it's for roleplay it's really just aggressive sex. Mild spanking, face fucking and pounding the guys arse.

And i thought this was just normal sex

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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The only people who can answer that question are subs. I would say, however, that a good dom has the force of personality to take a submissive out of their comfort zone and to have them enjoy the previously unknown.

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By *endmeoverputitin   profile verified by photo (M)  over a year ago

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i a dom or doms who are turned on useing me pissing on me and who like to hurt my bum and hole a bit

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By *endmeoverputitin   profile verified by photo (M)  over a year ago

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i like a dom or doms who are turned on using me pissing on me and who like to hurt my bum and hole a bit

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By *red1904  (M)  over a year ago

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i would love to find out please !

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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A dom is just the dominant partner normally the top. A sub is the submissive one normally the bottom.

If you were having your arse smacked you'd be the submissive one the dom would be the one doing the smacking.

I have been both but think I would rather take the submissive role.

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By *orsuff spanker  (M)  over a year ago

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This debate shows how much damage can be done by the Internet. A Top is not a Dominant, a Dominant is not a Top. A bottom is not a submissive, a submissive is not a bottom.

It is like saying larger is a real ale and real ale is a larger. Or for no drinkers, tea is coffee and coffee is tea.

Before the Internet and still true today, in my view, a Top gives Anal. A bottom receives Anal.

Where as a Dominate controls the experiences and/or the discomfort a submissive endures. A Dominate is responsible for the safety of the submissive. A submissive aims to please the Dominant which could involve receiving Anal or giving Anal. Like wise the Dominate could receive Anal or give Anal.

The terms Dominate and submissive are not exclusively reserved for the male/male sexual arena but for All genders and sexual preferences. While Top and bottom apply mainly to male/male sexual activities.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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"This debate shows how much damage can be done by the Internet. A Top is not a Dominant, a Dominant is not a Top. A bottom is not a submissive, a submissive is not a bottom.

It is like saying larger is a real ale and real ale is a larger. Or for no drinkers, tea is coffee and coffee is tea.

Before the Internet and still true today, in my view, a Top gives Anal. A bottom receives Anal.

Where as a Dominate controls the experiences and/or the discomfort a submissive endures. A Dominate is responsible for the safety of the submissive. A submissive aims to please the Dominant which could involve receiving Anal or giving Anal. Like wise the Dominate could receive Anal or give Anal.

The terms Dominate and submissive are not exclusively reserved for the male/male sexual arena but for All genders and sexual preferences. While Top and bottom apply mainly to male/male sexual activities. "

It certainly shows your ignorance. There is no such thing as a 'dominate' for starters...

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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Ive had a lager byut not a larger is there a difference

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*ordic-knight By *ordic-knight   premium paying member (M)  over a year ago

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"I've had a lager but not a larger is there a difference"

Too much lager makes you larger

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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I'll have ten pints of that brand please ...

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*ordic-knight By *ordic-knight   premium paying member (M)  over a year ago

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I meant a larger beer guy Mr C. Surely a virile gent like you wouldn't want that

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By *endmeoverputitin   profile verified by photo (M)  over a year ago

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i find it hard trying to find a dom that also likes to abuse my bum/hole

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By *orsuff spanker  (M)  over a year ago

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dominate

verb

have power and influence over.

"the company dominates the market for operating system software"

synonyms: control, influence, exercise control over, be in control of, command, be in command of, be in charge of, rule, govern, direct, have mastery over, master, have the upper hand over,

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By *endmeoverputitin   profile verified by photo (M)  over a year ago

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i like it when when someone else is in control.....and sometimes when im very horny i like them if they abuse my bum

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By *sunamiwarrior   profile verified by photo (M)  over a year ago

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How do you abuse a bum

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*ordic-knight By *ordic-knight   premium paying member (M)  over a year ago

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"How do you abuse a bum "

Swear at it

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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As far as I'm concerned, dom and sub are personality traits, not something that is learned or taught for use in the bedroom.

Although some people can easily switch between the two

Someone trying to be dom when they aren't would make me cringe tbh

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*imBottom By *imBottom   profile verified by photo (M)  over a year ago

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This is so true. Have met "doms" who are laughable.

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By *lain51   profile verified by photo (M)  over a year ago

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I am a sub. like to be used and firmly fucked. Like to please my partner first.

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*reshMeatKent By *reshMeatKent  (M)  over a year ago

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Well, I'd like to find a Dominant who uses me orally and anally but all those who claim to be able to play that dominant role can't.

I'd say I was a submissive bottom. I'm not into guys, thus want the dominance that orders me to suck their and or others cocks as well as being take and taunted I'm not straight.

Simply being a Top doesn't make you dominant at all in my view.

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By *ayMan007   profile verified by photo (M)  over a year ago

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"This debate shows how much damage can be done by the Internet. A Top is not a Dominant, a Dominant is not a Top. A bottom is not a submissive, a submissive is not a bottom.

It is like saying larger is a real ale and real ale is a larger. Or for no drinkers, tea is coffee and coffee is tea.

Before the Internet and still true today, in my view, a Top gives Anal. A bottom receives Anal.

Where as a Dominate controls the experiences and/or the discomfort a submissive endures. A Dominate is responsible for the safety of the submissive. A submissive aims to please the Dominant which could involve receiving Anal or giving Anal. Like wise the Dominate could receive Anal or give Anal.

The terms Dominate and submissive are not exclusively reserved for the male/male sexual arena but for All genders and sexual preferences. While Top and bottom apply mainly to male/male sexual activities. "

Larger? You're talking nonsense!

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By *lincsbottom   profile verified by photo (M)  over a year ago

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Well I class myself as a bottom and passive when being intimate with a guy but I do not class myself as submissive. I like to receive a cock in my mouth and/ or my arse, being spanked is just part of the fun, any grabbing whilst doing it is just rough sex as is being fucked hard and fast.

A submissive guy I feel would have to be told what to do and when to do it, he would have to do everything a dom guy tells him to do without question.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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"Hello Gentlemen

What does bring a Dom actually involve.

Can somebody give some pointers/advice

Thanks"

Bring a dom? Is that an S&M parties version of bring a bottle?? …

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By *ubguy2  (M) 39 weeks ago

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Has a very good discription.

as a sub I just like to please and be controlled by a Dom ...

In all their kinky ways

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By *ariousArtists  (M) 39 weeks ago

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Hardest thing I’ve found in my search for a true sub, is they rarely understand that their purpose isn’t for me as a Dom to tick of their list of fantasies and for me to do things for them, it’s the opposite. A sub is there to serve a Dom, not the other way round.

So infuriating.

Ps- I actually had a sub slave say to me once - well I don’t rim! But I’d want you to rim me. Cheeky devil.

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By *ubguy2  (M) 30 weeks ago

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Iv always been submissive .. Don't no why .. Just am.

I like the Dom to take control and direct me ... But for it to work well you need to build trust .... I guess we all have our limits ..but it is for the Dom to move you beyond your limits.. There I things that I would do now which I would never have done years ago...

A little patients goes a long way .... I like to think that I'm Openminded to all of a masters kinks...... I don't meet many ..but I do meet. But I know beforehand what will be expected of me at the meet .. Happy days

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