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Is it cheating on your wife i you are fucking other men and not women?

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By *rian2   profile verified by photo (M) 40 weeks ago

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Is it cheating ,as a married man, on your wife if you fuck , receive or give, with another man but not other women ?

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By *illiam51  (M) 40 weeks ago

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Suppose some people will say yes it's still cheating whether it's with a male or female. You have to live with it if she finds out

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By *ayMan007   profile verified by photo (M) 40 weeks ago

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"Is it cheating ,as a married man, on your wife if you fuck , receive or give, with another man but not other women ?

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Yes!

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*oredEric By *oredEric   profile verified by photo (M) 40 weeks ago

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Depends, if she knows and approves, tolerated, gets involved then no.

If you're sneaking about shit scared she'll find out then yes.

Oh and you're giving yourself away in a thousand different ways, from subtle leakage to not securing your phone/computer or being overly protective about them.

Don't forget it works both ways, she might be cheating on you having worked out you're at it.

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*ordic-knight By *ordic-knight   premium paying member (M) 40 weeks ago

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If you made your wedding vows in a church then yes you are cheating. Not so sure about a registrars office as that is more of a business contract.

If you are having sex with men unbeknown to your wife and without her consent then you are definitely cheating. It's up to you and your conscience.

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*ersgregor By *ersgregor  (M) 40 weeks ago

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I think a lot of married men who are bi see other women as a red line that they won't cross.

Some take comfort in the fact that no matter how many men they go with, they'd never touch another woman.

It is a sort of faithfulness. They are faithful in that they will only get what the wife can't provide that is cock.

People live with their sexuality in the best way they can.

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By *rian2   profile verified by photo (M) 40 weeks ago

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Great reply. Its a complex moral question but I think you have identified the dilemma and the fig leaf behind which bi guys can hide behind, to salve the conscience.

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By *assivecannock   profile verified by photo (M) 40 weeks ago

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Having been there done that, a woman I was with once when she found out she reckoned I was cheating, although the fact she was married to someone else and still is,, she didn’t consider she was cheating

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*ordic-knight By *ordic-knight   premium paying member (M) 40 weeks ago

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"Having been there done that, a woman I was with once when she found out she reckoned I was cheating, although the fact she was married to someone else and still is,, she didn’t consider she was cheating "

Female logic. One of the world's great mysteries.

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By *illiam51  (M) 40 weeks ago

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You mean its alright for a woman to have extra marital sex but if a man does it he's cheating

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By *tckingswearer6  (TV/TS/CD) 40 weeks ago

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I go dressed as a slut to the woods and to public loos. I'm convining in poor light. The guys line up to be sucked off and to fuck me, then they go home to their wives immediately after cumming. Theyre not bi, theyre desperate to release their frustration from women who have gone off sex.

I wear what their wives won't.

I do what their wives won't.

They get to dumptheir loads in a keen, tight hole. Theyre not trying to be unfaithful, its exciting, its relief. And I tick all the boxes their throbbing cocks need.

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By *suckcox  (M) 39 weeks ago

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just ask yourself the same question that you have asked, and if your wife was having secrete lesbian sex with other women then is she cheating?? if she is then you are. lol

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By *inger   profile verified by photo (M) 39 weeks ago

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"I go dressed as a slut to the woods and to public loos. I'm convining in poor light. The guys line up to be sucked off and to fuck me, then they go home to their wives immediately after cumming. Theyre not bi, theyre desperate to release their frustration from women who have gone off sex.

I wear what their wives won't.

I do what their wives won't.

They get to dumptheir loads in a keen, tight hole. Theyre not trying to be unfaithful, its exciting, its relief. And I tick all the boxes their throbbing cocks need. "

This did make me laugh

#anotherplanet

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By *rian2   profile verified by photo (M) 39 weeks ago

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"just ask yourself the same question that you have asked, and if your wife was having secrete lesbian sex with other women then is she cheating?? if she is then you are. lol

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I think men's and women's mindsets are different on issues like this. If my wife was having secret lesbian sex I think I would find it both charming and erotic. I would not consider it cheating.

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By *obbo-bi1  (M) 39 weeks ago

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Just my own personal opinion. If you need to ask the question, you already know the answer.

Now hoping to find some kind of excuse to use if found out.

Just my opinion mind

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By *atinesque  (M) 39 weeks ago

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Ask yourself this: "Would she disapprove?" If the answer is yes, you're cheating.

If it is she who suggested it, or knows about it and doesn't tell that she cares, enjoy life!

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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago

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Of course it’s cheating. You can justify it to yourself in anyway you choose, but it’s still cheating.

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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago

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Ask your wife what she thinks

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By *ikado  (M) 39 weeks ago

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Naw yer kidding me oan.

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*llytart By *llytart  (M) 39 weeks ago

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Yes and I don't see how it can be argued otherwise. It may not bother you - fair enough it's not a moral issue for me - but it is cheating.

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By *idonnyguy  (M) 39 weeks ago

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Expected some silly responses to the original question but this made me giggle! I hope to god this was an attempt at humour. If so bravo sir, bravo.

If not, have a word with yourself pal

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By *idonnyguy  (M) 39 weeks ago

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As in this one

_ordic-knight By _ordic-knight premium paying member (M) 3 days ago

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If you made your wedding vows in a church then yes you are cheating. Not so sure about a registrars office as that is more of a business contract.

If you are having sex with men unbeknown to your wife and without her consent then you are definitely cheating. It's up to you and your conscience.

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By *ayMan007   profile verified by photo (M) 39 weeks ago

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The vows a married person makes in a registrars office are just as binding as the vows made in a church! If anyone is married and has sex with someone other than their wife or husband, no matter what gender they are, then they ARE definitely cheating!

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By *ldbidogger  (M) 39 weeks ago

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Personally I don't see it as cheating. My OH plainly isn't interested in sex any more, it's years since we last shagged, but just because she doesn't want it she doesn't appear to realise that I still do. . She sleeps next to me naked but stiffens up if I touch her. She has a lovely body but complains if I look at her that I'm leering or lecherous. Ffs she's my wife, where else am I going to see bare flesh?

We went for a week in Europe for our anniversary, I was hoping for some romance but there was none, I was rebuffed. Some holiday that was.

To me cheating is if you have a woman or a male friend who you are seeing regularly and having sex with over a period of time and keeping it a big secret. To go out and have casual wanking and sucking sex with men you're unlikely to see again, or if you are lucky enough to find a dogging woman, is acceptable to me in my circumstances.

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By *assive Peter  (M) 39 weeks ago

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Agree entirely. Always amazes me when wives decide to just suddenly turn the tap off - they must stupidly think we just accept that after having great sex lives. What on earth do they think we do. Such arrogance on their behalf and shortsightedness.

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By *acchy  (TV/TS/CD) 39 weeks ago

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Which one made you giggle? Don't understand the response.

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*ordic-knight By *ordic-knight   premium paying member (M) 39 weeks ago

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"Which one made you giggle? Don't understand the response."

Think he was referring to a post of mine which he repeated underneath his 'made me giggle' post. Just happy to have caused a bit of merriment for someone

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By *arbi   profile verified by photo (TV/TS/CD) 39 weeks ago

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Not when his wife is fucking you as well,

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By *rian2   profile verified by photo (M) 39 weeks ago

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Ask yourself this: "Would she disapprove?" If the answer is yes, you're cheating.

If it is she who suggested it, or knows about it and doesn't tell that she cares, enjoy life!"

An interesting test. How many men are on sites like this with their other half's knowledge and approval? Is being on a site without the OH approval also cheating?

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*llytart By *llytart  (M) 10 weeks ago

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In answer to the above post about a 'test' I'd suggest it's how your life - not just your sex life - is with your OH.

Think of it in another way. Would you think your OH was cheating on you if she was looking at some black guy with a 10" knob on Pornmum or something when you're at work? Personally, I think that's ridiculous. If you've not had the chat about the pair of you looking at porn then you're missing out anyway, but I bet she does look at it same as you do. If you're posting comments to a web site like this but showing women instead of men, is that cheating?

I'd suggest the difference here is probably with Cott as it raises the question does she know you're either Bi or just like doing something with men?

The original post says 'Are you cheating if you're FUCKING'. How about just wanking someone off or perhaps sucking? Is that cheating? Now, substitute the bloke with a woman and that bit of a kiss and a fondle you once had at a Christmas party, did you cheat then?

I guess the answer is we all find our own limits, not just with ourselves but with our OH and what limits you'd consider her cheating on you.

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By *onsterBlast  (M) 10 weeks ago

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Of course it's cheating. Making excuses like 'the wife won't have sex anymore' is ridiculous. Maybe she won't have sex with you because she knows you're shagging other people (doesn't matter what sex they are) and stealing her undies. The vow of 'for better or for worse' needs to be adhered to.

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By *nello  (M) 10 weeks ago

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"Of course it's cheating. Making excuses like 'the wife won't have sex anymore' is ridiculous. Maybe she won't have sex with you because she knows you're shagging other people (doesn't matter what sex they are) and stealing her undies. The vow of 'for better or for worse' needs to be adhered to."

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*8sform8 By *8sform8  (M) 10 weeks ago

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Its cheating unless she or he is fully aware and consensual to you doing so. It beggers belief that so many men are dishonest to their wives. Too afraid to own up to them and run the risk of giving them STDs. No wonder so many dress up in girly stuff, total wimps not fit to wear trousers if you ask me. Can't be doing with cheating tell the truth like we do. Gay proud and tell each other gay man here. Not doing stuff in secrecy we share our fun.

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By *eew  (M) 10 weeks ago

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Very good statement

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